What Your Partner Really Means When They Say “We Can’t Afford That

When your partner says, “We can’t afford that,” it often feels frustrating, confusing, or even dismissive.
But most of the time, it’s not actually about money.
In this video, licensed therapist Monica explains the four real meanings behind this phrase and why it shows up so often in couple conflict.
You’ll learn:
Why “we can’t afford it” usually reflects priorities, safety, or values
How money arguments are really about meaning, not math
The difference between misaligned values and mismanaged finances
A simple exercise couples can use to turn money conflict into connection
This video is for couples who want fewer fights, clearer communication, and a healthier relationship with money — without blame or judgment.
🔑 In This Video, We Cover:
“We can’t afford it” as a priority statement
How money represents safety for some people
Why future-focused partners think differently about spending
How misalignment shows up through money conversations
💬 Reflection Question
When you say “we can’t afford that,” what do you usually mean?
Share in the comments — or watch together and talk about it after.
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