In Laws Uninvited Me From The Wedding, Invited My Husband’s Ex Instead. And Now They Want Me To...

In Laws Uninvited Me From The Wedding, Invited My Husband’s Ex Instead. And Now They Want Me To Make Their Cake For Free

Time sensitive since the wedding is this Friday. I was asked by my mother in law a while ago to make two cakes for my sister in law ’s wedding. From my understanding these will not be the main dessert or the actual wedding cake they cut for photos, just extra cakes for wedding guests with food allergies (I myself have a dairy allergy and my husband's god-daughter, who is the flower girl, has celiac). She asked me to make a gluten free cake and a dairy free cake. Baking is not my main job but I did go to culinary school and I occasionally bake out of my home on the side and have made wedding cakes before. My mother in law said she would pay me to make them and buy ingredients but she has yet to pay me anything or buy anything to my knowledge. She also never sent me reference photos or inspo pics of how sister in law wants the cakes to look, which I did request. For added context, sister in law and I are not close anymore. We used to get along well in the beginning of my relationship with my now husband, sister in law 's brother, but over time we have drifted apart. My husband and I are not fans of her fiancé and that definitely has put a strain on our relationship with her but we try to just accept the fact that if she's happy, we can be happy for her. The events over the last month have led me to not want to make the cakes for her wedding anymore but I am just wondering if it will make me the asshole if I don’t make them, back out so close to the wedding.
About 4 weeks ago was my sister in law's bachelorette party. She got an Airbnb for the whole weekend for her AND her bridesmaids and my mother in law. I was not invited to stay at the Airbnb, I was told there weren't enough beds, but was invited to be a part of the Saturday plans and I could get my own hotel if I wanted. It was about 2 hours away from where I live so I just decided I would drive there and back and save on a hotel. My mother in law calls me the morning of and basically tries to convince me it isn't worth the drive and I should just stay home and my sister in law would understand and would want me to be safe. mother in law said she was worried about me driving alone on unfamiliar roads late at night on the way back. I said I didn't want to miss out on my sister in law 's bachelorette party and said I could maybe look into getting a cheap hotel. I got all the way there only to get a call from one of the bridesmaids telling me the girls talked and they weren't really comfortable hanging out with someone they don't know....and I was basically uninvited so I drove the 2 hours back home trying not to cry the whole time.

I was very hurt by this from both my mother in law and sister in law . At the time, I thought my mother in law was just being overly worried about me but after the fact I was thinking did sister in law not want me there and was trying to get mother in law to get me to not go? I wasn't sure why I was even invited, if that was the case and why if she changed her mind and didn't want me there that she couldn't have told me herself or before I drove 2 hours there. I told my husband everything and he was so embarrassed and upset by what happened. He messaged his mom and said how upset and disappointed he was that I was treated that way and mentioned how hurt I was by everything. She never responded to his message and didn't reach out to me either. I also never heard from sister in law .
Flash forward to last weekend, I found out there's another Bachelorette party in town planned for sister in law and her fiancé for family only this time. My husband was invited and told specifically not to bring anyone else that wasn't personally invited by the bride or groom. Well I never got a message or invite to the party so I assume I wasn't invited and am still hurt I was uninvited to the last one. I tell my husband that he doesn't have to stay home for my sake and that it's his sister and he should go if he wants to. He was getting calls from his cousin and sister asking where he was. I didn't want to keep him from his family or somehow get blamed for him not going so I told him to go and I'd be okay even though I was very hurt by being excluded again.

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