Loving Who He Is vs Who He Could Be | Addicted to His Potential

Ever found yourself holding on to a man’s potential—believing in who he could be if only he’d try harder, heal more, or finally “get it”? Sis, you’re not alone.

In this episode, I’m helping Black women understand the quiet emotional trap of loving someone’s potential instead of their reality. As a Black woman and relationship coach who works with single Black women wanting marriage, I see this pattern steal your time, your softness, and your peace.

We’ll unpack:
1. Why “seeing the best in him” can secretly become self-abandonment
2. How to tell when faith in his growth turns into fantasy
3. What loving a man’s reality—flaws and all—actually looks like
4. Why your worth isn’t tied to who you can fix

If you’ve ever said, “But I know he can be better,” this conversation is for you.

Take my free quiz “What’s Blocking You From Being Soft in Love?” — created for powerful, single Black women who are ready to stop overgiving and start receiving love that feels safe.

Quiz 🔗: What's Blocking You From Being Soft in Love: bit.ly/whatsblockingyou


Books That Have Impacted My Views on Men, Dating & Relationships:
1. Saving Your Marriage Before it Begins: The 7 Questions to Ask Before and After You Get Married https://amzn.to/3Xc5lb5
2. His Needs Her Needs: Building an Affair Proof Marriage https://amzn.to/3QwmHLO
3. Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs https://amzn.to/434D6ic
4. Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dream-girl https://amzn.to/3XfE3jZ
5. Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man https://amzn.to/412RFAc
6. What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience and Healing https://amzn.to/4hOTZSl
7. Getting the Love You Want: A Couples Guide https://amzn.to/3XgOkML
8. Why You’re Not Married . . . Yet https://amzn.to/4gWKoaW
9. Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others https://amzn.to/3CZMysA
10. The 5 Love Languages https://amzn.to/43gl0JY


For Helpful Resources Check Out the Links Below:
👩🏽‍🦱 Quiz link: What's Blocking You From Being Soft in Love: bit.ly/whatsblockingyou

📱 Apply for a coaching conversation with me: bit.ly/bookacoachingconvo


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