Therapy Changed My Life: Lydia KM on Shame, Boundaries & Becoming Fearless | For Mannerless Women

Welcome to Season 3 of For Mannerless Women, the show redefining what healing, confidence and womanhood look like for African women everywhere.

To open the season, Adelle sits down with Lydia KM, content creator, mental health advocate, and one of the most influential voices in Kenya, for an honest, deeply emotional conversation about therapy, unlearning shame, boundaries, grief, self-healing, and becoming the most authentic version of yourself.

If you’ve been searching for:
How to start therapy in Kenya
Healing as an African woman
Unlearning shame and people-pleasing
How to set boundaries with parents or partners
Navigating grief and emotional overwhelm
Shame vs shamefree living
Inner child work, self-trust, and emotional regulation
…this conversation is going to feel like a homecoming.

In this episode, Lydia KM shares powerful insights on:
Her first experience with therapy in Kenya and finding the right therapist
The emotional shift that came with unlearning shame
How shame affects African women’s choices in careers, dating, dressing and visibility
Breaking free from societal expectations around marriage, success & “the right timeline”
Boundaries, especially with parents and relationships
Being seen, playing small, and the fear of taking up space
Grief and how losing a loved one reshapes your identity
Alcohol, anxiety, sobriety, and choosing healthier coping mechanisms
Inner child work, emotional processing, morning routines & daily tools for healing
Choosing a shamefree life versus being labelled “shameless”
The shame we internalize and project as African women — and how to break that cycle

This is one of the most transformative conversations we’ve ever had on For Mannerless Women, and it’s the perfect way to begin a season rooted in healing, courage, and honest self-reinvention.

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Lydia has also shared a list of therapists and wellness practitioners to support your healing journey, you’ll find them below:
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