Using R A I N to Process Anger after a Confrontation

"Adjacent to whiteness is not whiteness."

How to use RAIN to process anger (or other difficult emotions), after confrontations. Using an experience I relay here, I walk you through the tools I used to handle my emotional reactions during an unprovoked confrontation with a stranger.

R A I N (Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture) is a healing protocol by Tara Brach which begins with self-awareness, and progresses to letting go of difficult emotions through acceptance, normalization, self compassion, forgiveness, among other healing jewels.

This video will help you if you struggle with aggression, anger, confrontations in public spaces especially the subway or street in NYC where we all share space with each other. This method is especially ysefl to develop skill in letting go of anger and shame, and moving on. If difficult emotions stay with you long after a confrontation, this video is for you.

This video is also racially, politically, culturally relevant - all the most difficult elements of race-based aggression are present. An angry person who cannnot percieve non-aggression, and instant and unprovoked aggressive accusation of white supremacy or asian inferiority, tremendous anger, the need for compassion and forgiveness in the moment even though it makes us look weak (to ourselves).

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0:00 preview short
0:39 intro
2:19 table of contents
4:58 events
6:50 story that I created in my mind
9:29 ER - emotional reaction description
10:57 R - Recognize
17:43 donation request
18:00 my process
20:20 A - Allow
22:13 I - Investigate
25:09 N - Nurturing