Marriage is Broken: A Divorce Attorney's Perspective

Is marriage actually working the way we think it is?

After decades practicing family law and living through divorce herself, family law attorney, Ann Grant shares a perspective most people never hear until it’s too late.

In this short video from an episode of the Divorce Hacker Podcast, Ann explores why modern marriage struggles under the weight of expectations it was never designed to carry.

Marriage was not created for love.
It was created to preserve wealth and align families.

Only in the last century did we begin marrying for love while still using a legal structure built for entirely different purposes.

The result?

• Over 50% of first marriages fail
• 63% of second marriages fail
• Nearly 80% of third marriages end in divorce

And yet, we rarely talk honestly about why.

In this conversation, Ann challenges the idea of lifelong contractual commitment to an infallible human, something we would never do with a job, a lease, or even a car.

She also unpacks an uncomfortable truth:
The qualities that attract us to someone in our 20s or 30s are not always the qualities required to be a long-term partner, parent, or provider.

This is not an argument against love.
It’s an argument for informed choice, honest conversation, and legal clarity.

If you’re married, considering divorce, or simply questioning what commitment really means in modern life, this video offers perspective, not pressure.

📘 Learn more in The Divorce Hacker’s Guide to Untying the Knot