Why You Keep Having the Same Argument and How to Fix It

Ever feel like you and your partner are having the same fight over and over again — even when the topic changes? That’s not an accident. That’s a relationship cycle, and understanding it is the first step to changing it.

In this video, I break down:
✨ What relationship cycles and emotional patterns actually are
✨ Why couples get stuck in the same arguments
✨ How attachment styles shape these patterns
✨ The fears and longings underneath every conflict
✨ A simple 4-step process to interrupt and repair your cycle
✨ How to move from reactivity to connection

Whether you're dealing with conflict, disconnection, withdrawal, pursuit–withdraw cycles, people-pleasing, criticism, shutdowns, or emotional overwhelm, this video will help you see the pattern clearly — and start shifting it.

What You’ll Learn
What a relationship pattern is (and why ALL couples have one)
How your attachment style influences your reactions
Why do some partners get louder while others shut down
How childhood adaptations show up in adult relationships
The real reason the same fight keeps happening
How to map your own cycle and identify triggers
How to communicate your deeper needs (instead of defending them)
What healthy repair looks like

This video is for you if:
You keep having the same argument with your partner
One of you withdraws and the other gets louder
You feel stuck, misunderstood, or disconnected
You want to communicate better and reconnect emotionally

00:00 Introduction: Recognizing Relationship Patterns
00:44 Understanding Relationship Cycles
01:23 Formation of Patterns: Attachment Theory
02:24 Identifying Your Core Pattern
04:23 Steps to Interrupt the Cycle
05:31 Healing and Reconnecting
06:41 Conclusion: Embracing Growth Together

Medical / Mental Health Disclaimer
This video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional psychological, medical, or therapeutic advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Watching this video does not establish a therapist–client relationship. If you are struggling in your relationship or experiencing significant emotional distress, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional or appropriate healthcare provider in your area.