How Your Childhood Wounds Show Up In Relationships with Vienna Pharaon — Been There, Felt That S1E2

On this episode, we talk to licensed marriage and family therapist Vienna Pharaon (@mindfulmft). We explore how our family and origin stories can wound us and impact our relationships throughout our lives. We delve into the deep-rooted wounds that can cause us to repeatedly self-sabotage and engage in unhealthy patterns with those we love. From uncovering the origin of these wounds to taking the crucial steps towards healing, Vienna shares her personal stories and expert insights that will help you identify your own wounds and work towards creating healthy relationships in the future. Tune in as we explore the power and impact of our family and origin stories, and learn how to break free from negative patterns and create a happier, healthier life.


Discover:


Vienna's personal experience with parents' separation and divorce that lasted nine years.

Behavior patterns, including internalization and lack of validation, carried into adulthood.

Benefits of therapy and self-reflection for personal growth and avoiding patterns that create dysfunction in relationships.

Therapy as a mix of the art form and science, with the therapist-client relationship being crucial.

Importance of self-love, compassion, ownership, responsibility, and accountability in relationships and patterns.

Key takeaways on understanding and addressing origin wounds and how they impact patterns in our lives.

Steps for healing, including connecting, identifying wounds, witnessing pain, and expressing grief.

Importance of authentic emotional expression and understanding of our own and others' origin stories.


Time Stamps:

04:30: Vienna's experience with high-conflict divorce

06:45: Impact of being an only child

08:50: Internalizing and appearing unbothered

11:14: The motivation for going to therapy

12:55: Healing is a forever practice

16:18: Pursuing unavailable people

21:58: What to expect in therapy

24:26: Looking at similarities in relationship patterns

28:20: Childhood imperfections & flaws

42:35: Healing without confronting the other person

47:30: Understanding reactivity and patterns

51:50: Steps for healing and understanding origin wounds