Don’t Settle For An “OK” Marriage

In today’s episode of Doing Life with Ken & Tabatha, we’re speaking straight to every couple who’s doing “fine”… but knows deep down there’s more. More connection. More friendship. More passion. More purpose.

Ken and Tabatha break down why so many marriages drift into cruise control, how “okay” can quietly turn into distance, and what it looks like to fight for a marriage that keeps growing—year after year.

If you’ve been feeling stuck in the so-so zone, this conversation will give you language, tools, and a clear roadmap to rebuild momentum—without shame, without blame, and with a lot of hope.

✅ In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why it’s easy to settle (and why it’s risky)

How kids, business, and burnout can unintentionally come before your spouse

The powerful question every couple should ask: “Do you feel like I put you first?”

Why “so-so” often starts internally—and how to take ownership without attacking

How to stop projecting personal pain onto your spouse

8 practical keys to move from okay → wonderful

🧩 8 Keys to Get Out of the “OK Marriage” Zone

Build a shared vision (mission, values, a “North Star”)

Win the day in 10 minutes (small daily deposits over occasional big gestures)

Fight fair with a written playbook (rules for conflict that protect love)

Intimacy on purpose (spiritual, emotional, and physical connection)

Money as a team sport (unity lowers anxiety & builds trust)

Radical honesty + rebuilding trust (brick by brick)

Guardrails that protect the marriage (boundaries, mouth, time, priorities)

Keep it joyful & growing (monthly adventures + dating each other again)



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