How to Repair Your Relationship: The 5 Rules They Never Taught You (And Why You Keep Failing)

Relationships aren't as complicated as we think—we just never learned the skills to maintain them. In this deep-dive live Q&A session, we uncover why we keep repeating the same patterns in every relationship and how to break the cycle.

🔑 WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:
The 5 essential steps for repair (Do Nothing, One Person at a Time, Don't Be a Dick, Your Perspective Needs a Nap, Be an Anthropologist)
The difference between cognitive attunement and embodied empathy
Why you CANNOT repair when both partners are dysregulated
The Relationship Grid: discover if you're grandiose/shame-based and boundaryless/walled-off
How to expand your capacity for tension (and why the virtual world is sabotaging us)
The difference between change-oriented vs. acceptance partners
When to stay and work vs. when it's time to let go

⚡ KEY MOMENTS: The truth about "closure" without the other person
Why continuing to try to repair might be the problem
Micro-repairs vs. macro-ruptures: the paper cuts that lead to explosions
How to set boundaries that actually work (hint: they're only about YOU)
The disillusionment process every relationship must go through
Enlightened self-interest: why avoidants should prioritize repair

💡 CORE INSIGHTS: "Agreement is the enemy of attunement—there is no truth in relationships, only two subjective realities"
"We can only do so much healing work alone. Relational work happens IN relationships" "Am I getting enough in this relationship to grieve what I'm not?"

👥 PERFECT FOR:
Anyone struggling with recurring conflict patterns
Anxious-avoidant couples trying to understand their dance
People who feel like they're always the one doing the work
Anyone wondering if they should stay or go
Partners learning to navigate repair after rupture

This is real, unfiltered relationship wisdom—not the sanitized advice you usually get. If you're ready to actually understand what healthy, long-term love requires, this is for you.

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