Setting Limits That Stick: The SLIC Method for Effective Boundaries

Setting Limits That Stick: The SLIC Approach to Conflict ResolutionBill Eddy and Megan Hunter discuss SLIC Solutions for Conflict: Setting Limits and Imposing Consequences in 2 1/2 Steps, co-authored by Bill Eddy and Ekaterina Ricci. This episode explores how their practical SLIC method (Setting Limits, Imposing Consequences) helps parents establish and maintain effective boundaries with children of all ages.Understanding the SLIC MethodThe SLIC approach combines three key elements: setting clear limits, imposing appropriate consequences, and using strategic empathy statements. This 2 1/2 step method provides a structured framework for parents facing boundary-testing behaviors, whether dealing with toddlers learning self-control or teenagers pushing social limits. Bill's extensive background in child development, education, and family therapy informs practical applications across various parenting scenarios.Questions Answered in This Episode
What are the five key questions to ask when imposing consequences?
How should consequences vary by age and development stage?
When and how should parents collaborate with teachers on limits?
What makes limit-setting effective in divorced family situations?
How can parents overcome fear of setting firm boundaries?

Key Takeaways
Proportional consequences maintain effectiveness and teach responsibility
Early limit-setting creates foundation for teenage boundary acceptance
Parent-teacher-community alignment strengthens limit enforcement
Both positive and negative consequences play essential roles
The SLIC method works across various family structures and situations

This episode equips parents, teachers, and caregivers with practical tools from the SLIC method to establish consistent, effective boundaries while maintaining strong relationships with children. Listeners learn how to implement this structured approach across different ages and challenging situations.Additional ResourcesExpert Publications
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Watch this episode on YouTube (    • Setting Limits That Stick: The SLIC Method...   )!Important NoticeOur discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area.
00:00 - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
00:46 - Setting Limits
01:22 - Bill’s New Book
04:35 - Young Children
10:29 - Do Consequences Work For Everyone?
14:42 - Five Questions
16:46 - Teacher and Student
20:36 - Overcoming Fear of Setting Limits
22:53 - Older Kids
31:58 - Wrap Up

It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People
Episode 9, Season 8
November 13, 2025

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