#15 The Difference Between a Boundary and a Threat

If you’ve ever set a boundary after betrayal and immediately questioned yourself — Was that too harsh? Was that a threat? Am I being controlling? — this episode is for you.


After betrayal, boundaries often feel confusing, heavy, or even shame-inducing. Many women fear that setting limits means issuing ultimatums, threatening the relationship, or trying to control their partner’s recovery. But boundaries aren’t about control — they’re about self-respect, safety, and agency.


In this episode, we clearly break down the difference between a boundary and a threat, why this confusion is so common after betrayal trauma, and how to set boundaries that are rooted in clarity rather than fear. You’ll learn how to protect yourself without self-abandoning — and without trying to manage someone else’s choices.


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