🔴Your Silence Is Piercing! — Ignoring Their Mixed-Signal Hoover Drives the Narcissist Crazy

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Today, we are diving deep into a topic that is often misunderstood because of its subtle, almost invisible nature. We are talking about the silence that destroys the Narcissist’s ego—specifically, the power of you not noticing their mixed-signal hoovers.
It is crucial to understand the true nature of a Narcissist's hoover. In the popular imagination, a "hoover" is often depicted as a dramatic attempt to suck you back in: a tearful apology on your doorstep, a grand gesture of flowers, or a desperate letter. However, dealing with a covert or malignant Narcissist is rarely that black and white. These are often mixed signals, strategically designed to coerce you into a particular agenda without them having to take accountability.
A hoover is not always a heartfelt declaration of love, nor is it an acknowledgement of their past mistakes. In fact, it is rarely about you as a person at all. Many of you might not have realized that these hoovers were already occurring during periods of discard, abandonment, or ghosting. The Narcissist engaged in certain actions that went unnoticed by you at the time, yet they had a specific objective: to influence you in a certain direction.
When you did not respond as anticipated—when you failed to take their bait because you were either too busy healing or simply didn't see it—it represented a significant blow to the Narcissist. This non-reaction is a form of narcissistic injury that eats them alive, even if this remained unnoticed by you.
Why do they use mixed signals instead of direct communication? This is where we need to look at the psychology of the Narcissist. The Narcissist operates from a place of deep insecurity and shame. They are terrified of rejection. If they were to reach out to you directly and say, "I miss you, please come back," and you said "No," it would cause a psychological collapse.
To protect their fragile ego, they utilize Plausible Deniability. They send a signal that is ambiguous enough that if you confront them, they can say, "You're crazy, I didn't mean it that way."
They might "accidentally" like a photo of yours from three years ago.
They might post a song you both loved with a vague caption.
They might wear a shirt you gave them in a photo with their New Supply.
These are not accidents. They are calculated mixed signals. They want you to reach out to them. They want you to ask, "Why did you post that?" so they can gain the upper hand and treat you with disdain. But here is the beauty of your situation: You didn't notice. You didn't ask. And that silence is deafening to them.
This unawareness often served as a form of protection. At that time, you were likely experiencing immense hurt and pain, deeply invested in and conditioned by the relationship. You were likely in the trenches of cognitive dissonance—trying to reconcile the person you loved with the monster who hurt you.

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