Stop narcissistic, manipulative, controlling, toxic, bullying husbands

Hi, I’m Ben Leichtling, president of Bullies Be Gone. We’re gonna talk about how to get the bullies gone from your life. Specifically, we’ll talk about stopping narcissistic, manipulative, controlling, toxic, bullying husbands.

No matter what your situation is, it’s not too late to get off that nightmarish merry-go-round for yourself and your children.

Many people have a vicious cycle after being raised by toxic, manipulative, narcissistic, controlling, bullying parents. They grow up repeating the same old emotional pattern by having toxic boyfriends. Then they graduate to finding toxic, abusive husbands.
Don’t focus on psycho-jargon reasons why people who have been raised by toxic, bullying parents accept that treatment from their boyfriends and from their husbands (and often at work also).

Get over the idea that harassment, controlling and abuse are what people do to women. Get over the idea that people bully you because you’ve always been a victim, you are now and you always will be.

Instead, focus on the present. Ask, “What behavior will you allow in your personal space and what won’t you allow, period – even if you’ve accepted and tolerated it before?”

It doesn’t matter how much those bullies say they love you. It only matters how they show they love you. What they show, hurts.

Be guided by your dreams; that wonderful future is calling to you. Starting now, you can do whatever it takes to make your dreams come true.

Say, “Enough!”–just because you want to!

1. Divorce your old, childish ideas about what you’re supposed to accept. Stop self-bullying.
2. Divorce the old idea that your love can magically transform that predator. It can’t. It’s not your purpose or destiny in life. You’re wasting your life.
3. Divorce the old idea that if only you’re perfect, your husband will magically become nice to you. That’s not gonna happen. Find someone who’ll return your love with love that feels good.
4. Divorce the fear that he’s stronger, smarter and nastier, so he’ll always win. You can become strong, brave and determined. You can become skillful. You can find allies to help you. We can work through the complexities.
5. Divorce your toxic parents. Become estranged from them. No matter what they say and do to suck you in.

You owe it to yourself and to your children. They look to you as an example of strength and guidance; they look to you as a model. They ask: “Do bullies always get what they want? Should I become a bully to get what I want? Should I bully my wife? Should I be weak and nice like my mom and pick a bully for my husband?”
They need you to teach them by example; not by words, not by your pain or theirs.

I know it may be difficult but it’s simple, straightforward and clear. Set an example. Don’t allow bullies in your environment. Don’t be in theirs.

Sometimes, these toxic bullies didn’t show it until after you were married or had kids. But usually they harassed, bullied and controlled early on; you ignored it.

Doesn’t matter. History is not destiny. Now you can stop it. Simply because you want to, is all the reason you need.

Relentless bullies – abusive, controllers – are predators who go after the weak, the isolated and those who don’t resist. You can’t get a hyena to stop ripping your flesh by saying you’re a nice, sweet person and you don’t deserve being destroyed.

Of course, there are many complications depending on your situation. The best way to learn how: 1. To take power in your life, 2. To be the person you want to be, and 3. To have a rich, full, wonderful life is to hire me for personalized coaching and counseling.

You can develop:
1. The strength, courage, determination, will, endurance, perseverance and grit to win the future you want.
2. An effective plan and the skill to carry it out successfully.

Since all situations are different, please call me at 1-877-8Bullies, that’s 1-877-8Bullies, so we can create a plan that will be effective in your specific situation.

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