Want Community? Let Go of Control! With Stephanie H. Murray

We sit down with the whip-smart UK-based American journalist Stephanie H. Murray (https://substack.com/profile/6945863-...) (a contributing writer for The Atlantic (https://www.theatlantic.com/author/st...) ) to talk about the flawed baseline logic of American parenthood, freedom, control and the sacrifices we make to be part of a community. Murray explains that finding community may mean that we can’t “overindex” every little parenting decision, why ‘freedom’ as parents and kids might be more complex than it seems, why she wishes her neighbors would yell at her kids more often, and more. Plus: Book recommendations, parenthood and vigilance, Fanta in the UK vs. US, and Sarah demands permission to give your child the trashiest birthday present she can find.


Links:


Stephanie H. Murray (https://substack.com/profile/6945863-...) newsletter, Family Stuff (https://stephaniehmurray.substack.com/)


The Isolation of Intensive Parenting (https://www.theatlantic.com/family/ar...)


Bring Back Communal Kid Discipline (https://www.theatlantic.com/family/ar...)


“No gifts” or “Yes gifts?” Edith Zimmerman and I hash out who is superior (https://www.evilwitches.com/p/no-gift...) (from Evil Witches Newsletter (https://open.substack.com/pub/evilwit...) )


What’s On Her Mind (https://bookshop.org/a/111937/9780691...) : The Mental Workload of Family Life by Alison Daminger





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