Police Ego 101: Class Is In Session

Ever watch a simple contact spiral because someone felt disrespected? We sat down with Ofc. Jorge Lopez, a 30-year officer and veteran trainer, to unpack why ego flares so fast on the street and how to keep decisions anchored in reason, law, and outcome. Jorge doesn’t preach clichés—he maps the psychology. Using Freud’s id–ego–superego as a field-ready model, he shows how the “horse” (id) wants instant gratification, the “reins” (superego) tug toward ideals, and the “rider” (ego) has to steer under stress. When a “snake on the trail” appears—insults, defiance, a sudden kick—officers feel before they think. The trick is noticing the spike and buying time.

We break down the limbic system and amygdala’s threat signals versus the prefrontal cortex where law, policy, and judgment live. Anger is fast, fear is loud, and love—duty to protect—often proves stronger than both. George offers practical tools: the RULER method to recognize, label, and regulate emotions; the Johari Window to reveal blind spots that only emerge under heat; and his Four C’s—Camera, Communicate, Contact, Control—to structure every interaction. Add his favorite formula—Distance + Cover = Time—and you get a simple path to safer, smarter choices that hold up in court and on camera.

We also challenge the illusion of control. Crowds can’t be commanded into calm; you monitor potential threats while solving the actual problem. Talk more, force less. Competence breeds calm, and the best fighters rarely need to prove it. You’ll hear how internal scripts—It’s not personal; Don’t take the bait; Is this worth my career?—help officers steer back to thinking. And beyond tactics, we talk identity: building a life outside the badge so the job doesn’t own you.

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