The Best Selling Relationship Book That Taught Him To Abuse Me | Episode 012

The Five Love Languages seems like such a helpful relationship tool - until it's weaponized by an abusive partner. I brought this popular book into my own abusive relationship hoping it would help us communicate better, only to watch it become a tool for coercion and manipulation against me.

This week, I sit down with sexual coercion expert Nat LaJune to unpack the deeply problematic nature of Gary Chapman's bestselling book. We explore how "physical touch" as a love language is almost always weaponized by abusive men, the patriarchal origins of the book itself, and why the entire framework can enable manipulation in relationships.
Nat shares insights from her years of content creation on marital coercion, including the common tactics abusers use and why simply saying "just say no" isn't realistic for women in coercive relationships. We discuss the transactional nature that develops when love languages are weaponized, how any of the five categories can become coercive tools, and the importance of focusing on what you give rather than what you receive.

Our conversation also touches on the psychology behind men who feel entitled to sex, the role Christianity plays in enabling sexual coercion, and signs that your relationship may involve coercion you haven't recognized yet.

RESOURCES MENTIONED:
• "27 Love Languages" piece by Nat LaJune: https://natlajune.substack.com/p/27-l...

CONNECT WITH NAT LAJUNE:
• Social Media: @alwaysmending and @natlajune
• Website: https://www.alwaysmending.com/


Lisa Sonni
Stronger Than Before Coaching | Narcissistic Abuse & Trauma Bond Recovery Expert
Certified Trauma Recovery Coach specializing in evidence-based healing methods

Helping survivors break free from narcissistic abuse and trauma bonds through evidence-based recovery coaching and healing resources. Transform from surviving to thriving with proven trauma recovery methods.

About Lisa Sonni:
Trusted by over 1 million survivors worldwide. Providing expert narcissistic abuse recovery coaching, trauma healing resources, and transformational programs. Author of 4 bestselling recovery books and creator of the Break & Rebuild Method™ featured inside the Trauma Bond Recovery Course. Host of Real Talk with Lisa Sonni: Relationships Uncensored Podcast.

✨ FREE RECOVERY RESOURCES:
→ FREE 'Are You Trauma Bonded?' 2 minute quiz with instant results
https://kcdplmm983r.typeform.com/trau...
→ FREE Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Guide: 12-Step Healing Blueprint
https://www.subscribepage.com/trauma-...
→ FREE 'What's Your Biggest Roadblock To Healing?' 2 min quiz with instant results
https://kcdplmm983r.typeform.com/Rebu...
→ FREE 'Are You Done Yet?' 2 min quiz with instant results to find out if you're even ready to let go: https://kcdplmm983r.typeform.com/to/o...

🌟 TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE:
→ 1:1 Recovery Coaching: Talk to Lisa
https://strongerthanbefore.ca/book-a-...
→ Trauma Bond Recovery Course: Break Free Forever
https://strongerthanbefore.ca/trauma-...
→ Toxic Free Relationship Club: Join Our Healing Community
https://strongerthanbefore.ca/membership

📚 HEALING RESOURCES BY LISA SONNI:
The Trauma Bond Recovery Journal
https://a.co/d/h7pdo14
Rebuilding After A Trauma Bond: A Self-Love Journal
https://a.co/d/5aefClg
Narcissism Unmasked: A Survivors Handbook
https://a.co/d/dM16LbZ
Surviving To Thriving: Six Step Blueprint to Recovery
https://a.co/d/0Jtxpym

🔒 CERTIFIED TRAUMA SPECIALIST:
Certified Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach
Trauma-Informed Relationship Expert
Danger Assessment Professional
Certified Trauma Bond Recovery Specialist
Specialized in Complex PTSD Recovery

💕 JOIN OUR HEALING COMMUNITY:
Instagram: @stronger_than_before_coach_
TikTok: @stronger_than_before
Website: https://strongerthanbefore.ca

#NarcissisticAbuse #TraumaRecovery #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery
#TraumaBonding #EmotionalAbuse #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #HealingFromTrauma #ToxicRelationships

⚠️ DISCLAIMER: This content is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not therapy or medical advice. Always seek professional help for your specific situation.