The Hidden Flaws in Mel Robbins’ ‘Let Them’ Theory A Trauma-Informed Critique

Mel Robbins’ The Let Them Theory is an eye-opening book about releasing control, but does it work for everyone? As a trauma-informed coach, I see a major gap in its approach—especially for people with complex PTSD and developmental trauma. In this video, I break down why "letting them" isn’t always possible for trauma survivors, the science behind control and safety, and what healing needs to happen first.

If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, setting boundaries, or feeling like you have to fix others, this video will help you understand why—and what to do about it.

💬 What do you think? Have you read The Let Them Theory? Drop your thoughts in the comments!

🔹 Timestamps:
00:00 – Introduction: The Problem with ‘Let Them’
01:22 – What is The Let Them Theory?
03:37 – Why It’s a Powerful Concept
05:10 – The Issue for Trauma Survivors
07:49 – Why People-Pleasing Is a Survival Mechanism
10:35 – How Trauma Shapes the Nervous System
13:08 – The Missing Piece: Healing First
15:02 – Practical Steps for Letting Go Safely
17:25 – My Final Thoughts on the Book

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