It Doesn’t Matter Who Started It - It's Time To Go

If the dynamic is bringing out a version of you that doesn’t feel safe, stable, or true… then this isn’t about blame anymore. It’s about protecting your peace.

Sometimes, the healthiest and safest move isn’t proving a point. It’s walking away.

When the relationship becomes a pattern of you-did-that-so-i-did-this, and you catch yourself saying or doing things that don’t align with who you are... it’s no longer just about what they did. It’s about what this dynamic is doing to you.

There comes a point where justifying your reactions doesn’t change the reality: it’s no longer safe.

Everyone deserves a relationship where safety, communication, and mutual respect are non-negotiable.

The healthy choice? Leave (safely, find support if it's a sketchy situation) Heal.

Because staying and continuing in the cycle isn't safe for either of you

And it doesn’t end well!

Clinically, over the past ten years, I’ve worked with hundreds of people around the world - some who stayed too long, and some who caused the harm.

You don’t have to stay stuck. Whether you’re trying to heal what was done to you... or what you’ve done to someone else... this deep work will change your life and your future relationships.


That’s exactly what my work is here to help with:
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