Never share your past with your spouse | iftikhar Ahmad usmani | شوہر کو ماضی بارے کچھ نہ بتائیں

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This story was told to me by a woman named Saima in Glasgow who had divorced her husband of her own free will and had a fifteen-year-old daughter. Saima said that she was born in Pakistan to poor parents. When Saima was eighteen, she fell in love with her uncle's son, but because there was a fight between her father and uncle, the marriage could not take place.

She kept her heart set on stone and tried to forget her love. When she was twenty-two, she got engaged to a boy named Akhtar from the UK. The boy had one arm short, but Saima agreed because she wanted to forget her past and move forward. The marriage took place and Saima came to the UK. Saima's mother-in-law, father-in-law, and uncle were very happy. She was very happy to marry Akhtar, but on the first night, Akhtar told his wife that he had had physical relationships with many girls in the past. The wife listened to this patiently and remained calm. Then the husband asked Saima if she had any crushes before marriage.

Whenever her husband asked her about her past, Saima would avoid the matter and flatly deny that she had any relationship with anyone. A year later, when Saima had a daughter, Akhtar made Saima place her hand on her daughter's head and asked her if she had any crush before marriage. Saima told him that she was in love with her uncle's son but the marriage could not take place. After that day, Akhtar's behavior changed. He would disrespect his wife and object to her behavior. The arguments started happening every day, and it got to the point that Akhtar started beating Saima. Her mother-in-law and father-in-law also turned against her.

Saima's life became hell after the confession. Now Saima started waiting to get a passport and then she would make a decision. Five years later, Saima got a passport. As soon as she got UK citizenship, Saima first called the police and got a divorce. Now Saima lives in Glasgow with her daughter. Saima said that everyone should tell her story and convey two things. First, if a girl gets married from Pakistan and goes abroad, she should never tell her husband about her past. Instead, she should say that she came from Saudi Arabia and got married. There is no need to share her personal things with her husband. Second, not every woman gets married for a passport. Rather, UK husbands are so cruel to their wives that the girl separates from them as soon as she gets a passport. It is very wrong that if a man commits adultery, he is forgiven a hundred bloods and if a woman makes such a mistake, she is punished. This is a wrong thinking that needs to be changed. Saima cries like a child. It happened and went away.