Why You Keep Going Back to Old Habits (Even When You Want to Change)

You’re not weak for going back to the same habits.
You’re just trying to change the wrong thing.
In this video, I break down why you keep returning to habits you already decided to stop — procrastination, people-pleasing, self-sabotage, toxic patterns — and why willpower alone never works.
We talk about:
• How habits actually form (trigger → process → reward)
• Why your brain chooses relief over long-term growth
• How identity and self-image secretly control your behavior
• Why familiar chaos feels safer than unfamiliar peace
• The real question you need to ask if you want lasting change
This video is for you if:
• You keep starting and stopping
• You feel stuck in the same cycle every year
• You’re tired of saying “I’ll do better” without real change
• You want clarity, not motivational noise
Change doesn’t start with discipline.
It starts with who you believe you are when nobody is watching.
Watch till the end — the shift is subtle, but it changes everything.

👉🏽 Comment below: What habit are you realizing was protecting an old version of you?

TIMESTAMPS (FOR A 6-MIN VIDEO)

00:00 – You’re not weak, you’re changing the wrong thing
00:32 – How habits actually form (trigger, process, reward)
01:45 – Why your brain chooses relief over growth
02:40 – When habits turn into identity
03:35 – The self-sabotage pattern nobody explains
04:30 – Familiar chaos vs unfamiliar peace
05:15 – The real question that creates change
05:50 – Closing reflection + question for you


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