Why don’t you like yourself? Gabby Bernstein: How to stop numbing difficult emotions

Getting lost in anxiety, shame, or self-loathing? Spiritual leader Gabby Bernstein wants you to acknowledge all the messy parts of your true character. Spoiler: you’re not going suddenly to like yourself overnight, but acknowledging the uncomfortable bits will get you there sooner!

In this chat with Fearne, Gabby explains how ‘protector parts’ like perfectionism, people pleasing, and numbing out can spiral into extreme self-soothing behaviours like drug or porn addiction if they’re not dealt with.

Fearne and Gabby chat about anxiety as a protection mechanism, exploring why being focused on the heart palpitations and hyper-vigilance is stopping you dealing with your deeper wounds.

Plus, Fearne notices that her OCD is back so Gabby takes a moment to help her check in with her current stress levels – you can follow along with this exercise too!

Gabby’s latest book, Self-Help, is out now.

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Fearne's HAPPY PLACE is a place to celebrate honesty, authenticity and community. Fearne delves into life, love, loss and everything in-between by chatting to inspiring individuals who have made a change in their own lives or help other people to find different ways of seeing life as she reveals what happiness means to them.

Happy Place is a space that is safe for all where difference is celebrated and the extraordinary is discovered. A place to focus on the positives and to help you find the joy every day - big or small.

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Fearne Cotton is an English television and radio presenter, mother, broadcaster, writer and founder of Happy Place, a place where Fearne holds difficult but important conversations to encourage self-care and self-appreciation, creating a positive impact on the world, giving everyone a voice and actively listening.

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Chapters:

00:00 - 02:00 — Straight In: Healing & Honesty
02:01 - 06:00 — Discovering the Work That Changes Everything
06:01 - 11:00 — Trauma, Protectors & The Messy Bits of Being Human
11:01 - 15:30 — Addiction, Recovery & Rewriting Old Stories
15:31 - 20:00 — Manifestation
20:01 - 24:00 — Meeting Our Inner Parts with Kindness
24:01 - 28:30 — Daily Check-Ins
28:31 - 33:00 — The Power of Self-Compassion (Even When It’s Hard)
33:01 - 37:30 — Faith, Light Work & Finding Hope in Chaos
37:31 - 42:00 — Loss, IVF & Learning to Trust the Universe
42:01 - 47:00 — Life Lessons from Parenting & Relationships
47:01 - 51:00 — Choosing Joy Over Victimhood
51:01 - 53:40 — A Calmer, Kinder Way Forward

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