How To Rebuild Trust After An Affair (And Get Forgiveness)

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One bad decision, one mistake… and everything comes crashing down like no tomorrow.

Maybe you were drunk, or maybe for the first time in ages, you felt wanted, sexy, and alive. At the time, it felt right, but you didn’t even think about the consequences… what if my spouse found out? What would that do to our marriage? Could we ever recover from an affair?

But your spouse did found out and now your marriage is shattered. And now you don’t know what to do.

Hi, my name is Brad Browning and I’m YouTube’s top marriage expert. And in this video, I’m going to talk about how to recover from an affair and regain the trust of your spouse.

Trust is one the most important things in any relationship. Without it, there is no relationship. If you don’t trust your spouse, then everything they say and do will have a huge question mark attached to it… and it’s impossible to grow in such a tenuous situation like this. So if the trust is broken, then both parties need to dedicate 100% of their time and effort into rebuilding that trust up again. For some couples, this can be easy, but for others, it can be the most difficult thing in the world.

So in this YouTube video, I’m going to outline several tips that you can use right now to start help healing the wounds and rebuilding that trust that’s been lost.

Tip Number One – Make sure your apology was genuine.

Nothing will matter unless your partner truly and deeply feels that you are sorry. And if it means apologizing a million times until your partner accepts it, then so be it. But here are some tips… make sure you stare at your partner in the eyes every single time you say that you’re sorry. And don’t just say “you’re sorry” and move on – be empathetic. Say something like, “I know how you might feel right now and I’m genuinely devastated about it.” Your partner might snap back at you, yell at you, and scream at you, but at no point should you snap back. This will only make matters worse. Right now, your partner feels awful so you need to allow him or her to go through these emotions. You can also try holding your partner’s hand while you apologize… doing so will make your apology feel more authentic, and will help comfort your spouse at the same time. And finally, promise your spouse that you will never, ever make that same mistake again.

Tip Number Two – Think about trust all the time.

Right now, your partner doesn’t trust you. And every little mistake that you make moving forward will be magnified by about 10. So that means even little errors can set your partner off. So that’s why the subject of trust is something that has to be in the forefront of your mind all the time. Even something as simple as not calling your spouse back when you were supposed to can set off alarm bells… or even forgetting to pick up that carton of milk from the grocery store when you said you were going to. Right now you need to focus on the most important person in the world to you: your spouse. Failing to do so will result in a much slower recovery. So for every single action you do moving forward, think about your spouse and how it will affect him or hers trust for you.

Tip Number Three – Go above and beyond for your spouse.

Until trust has been fully rebuilt, you’re going to have to go the extra mile for your spouse. That means spending extra time with him or her, doing the chores around the house, bringing the kids to school, even giving your spouse flowers or an “I’m sorry” gift can go a long way. Just make sure that you don’t smother your spouse with attention. It’s important that you give him or her the time to breathe in the wake of your infidelity. Do your best to find out what your partner needs and then do it. Over time, with enough good behaviour, your spouse will see that you’re genuinely sorry and trust will be built over time.

By the way, if you want to learn some more tips and tricks that will help your spouse forgive for almost anything, then head on over to my website, www.MarriageGuy.com and watch the free video presentation there. In that video, you’ll learn subtle, psychological secrets that will compel your spouse to not only forgive you, but love you just like the day you two got married. Once again, that URL is www.MarriageGuy.com.

Tip Number Four – Be honest about everything

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