Episode 107: Carly Simon, James Taylor and Me

We all KNOW & FEEL the extremes in life. That’s the outer world—opposites are baked in.

In a Dan Rather interview, Carly Simon speaks about her marriage to James Taylor. She lays bare how their personalities clashed and magnetized. And no matter how much mindset work we do, we’re still going to ride the highs and lows of the outer world.

But… what shifts when we realize those highs and lows aren’t all of what we are?

Can we start spotting the Divine Paradox in everything? The BOTH/AND—like my dear one Turbo reminds me. Maybe truth is only ever found in the whole, not in the split.

Can we allow the emotional waves and watch from the shore at the same time? Can we be both the actor and the audience?

For me, that’s where steadiness lives. A kind of inner spaciousness that isn’t limited by emotions or personality thoughts.

I know you’ve watched yourself going through something.

But have you ever given the observer—or even the one witnessing the observer—a seat at the table of your own deep knowing?

Try this:

Look at something near you. I’m staring at my pink readers. That’s all I see—until I soften my gaze. Then, suddenly, my peripheral vision brings in the rest of the room.

What if our experience could expand like that? Instead of locking into what’s loudest or closest (a thought, a feeling, a grief), what if we allowed the whole field to come into view?

What if the “person” we think we are—our bodies, our thoughts, our moods, our roles—isn’t the whole of us?

The “I” that’s never gone anywhere—can we call it Soul? That’s the place I connected with when the suffering of Melissa’s death fell away. And that presence, that Home, has been available ever since—no matter what’s happening in the outer world.

Our Soul doesn't react personally; it observes without defense, which makes it more available for our compassion.

Yes, we can all go back to the pain, the “what ifs,” the looping thoughts that argue with what happened.

But we don’t have to, right?