S4Ep2: Just Help Me Release Being a Fixer

Why You Try to Fix Everything — And How to Stop Carrying What Isn’t Yours
Do you feel responsible for everyone else’s emotions, choices, or outcomes? If you’re constantly fixing, rescuing, explaining, or holding things together for others, it may not be your personality — it may be a survival pattern.
In this episode, we explore the psychology behind the fixer role and why so many emotionally aware, compassionate people struggle to stop carrying what was never theirs to hold.
Drawing from trauma research, family systems theory, and neuroscience, we unpack how fixing develops in childhood as a strategy for safety, connection, and belonging. You’ll learn how overfunctioning creates underfunctioning in relationships, why fixing actually blocks true connection, and how your nervous system may associate usefulness with worth.
I also share a personal story of a time I tried to fix someone I cared deeply about — and how it cost me my peace. You’ll hear what shifted when I stopped rescuing, returned responsibility where it belonged, and allowed balance to be restored.
If you’re exhausted from carrying emotional weight that isn’t yours, this episode offers clarity, permission, and practical steps to step out of the fixer role and back into peace.