Non Violent Communication 101 with Marianne van Dijk, Cup of Empathy

Marianne Van Dijk offers an introduction to Nonviolent Communication for the Holstee community.
This session covers:
✅ How to clarify what you want and ask for it effectively
✅ The specific language to avoid when seeking mutual understanding
✅ How to resolve conflicts with ease and compassion

Thank you to the members of the Holstee Community for making this possible.

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https://cupofempathy.com/

0:00 Intro
3:57 What is Nonviolent communication
4:58 What is conflict
6:15 Moving from strategy and judgment to needs
9:22 The Language of Needs
13:00 Brainstorm concrete ways to meet needs
14:47 Activity: What are my needs?
18:07 4 Steps of NVC
19:21 Participant: needing love and attention
21:16 Does NVC feel like work? Does it feel intuitive?
23:11 Struggling to communicate abstract needs
26:25 Is there always a need behind a feeling?
28:05 Recognizing the need behind thoughts
31:18 Is it effective to use NVC via text or email?
32:03 The 3 Modes of NVC
33:09 Getting comfortable with unpleasant feelings
36:30 Should I meet my needs on my own instead?
38:55 Teaching NVC to children
40:40 What do we do if we have “conflicting needs”?
45:20 Feelings vs. pseudo-feelings
51:00 How to make it authentic
55:30 Practicing NVC with self-compassion
56:32 Conversations around resentment
59:10 What if a person doesn’t want to communicate?
1:02:12 NVC with coworkers
1:03:47 Outro