Why your emotions are "sick"? Secondary emotions?! Invalidating environment - what is it?

The basic emotions are primary, and thus are always adequate and adaptive.
However, when we grow up in a family, we form learned, secondary emotions, which are the reason of our phycological problems and mishaps.
They include: the shame of sadness, the shame of shame, the guilt of anger, the fear of anger, the shame of joy and love.
Parents not recognizing or not accepting our emotions, criticizing and rejecting us for having them is a process called "invalidating". This process was described by Marsha M. Linehan in her "dialectical behavior therapy of borderline personality disorder."
In this video, I talk about why our parents may act like this and what the mechanism of the process is.

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