The Let Them Theory: Clarity, Commitment, and Closure

In this final episode of our Let Them Theory series, we dig into the last three chapters of Mel Robbins’ book—and we don’t hold back.

We talk about why the honeymoon phase blinds us to red flags, how to tell if someone is truly compatible (hint: if you’re confused, they’re not), and why waiting for a partner to change is wasted time. We also break down the “commitment conversation” that keeps us on equal footing instead of begging for validation, plus the hard truths about breakups—no shortcuts, just growth.

From recognizing unhealthy relationship patterns to using a breakup as fuel for self-improvement, this conversation is packed with practical tools for dating, commitment, and letting go.

🔑 What you’ll learn in this episode:

Why “but” and “maybe” are red flags in relationships
How to ask for commitment without losing your power
Why most people won’t change—and what that means for you
How to handle breakups without making them worse
Why your motivation (even revenge) can still lead to positive change

🎧 Whether you’re dating, rebuilding after heartbreak, or just working on yourself, this is the episode that ties it all together.

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0:00 Introduction to Let Them Theory
4:25 Dating to Find Yourself
9:52 Seeing Patterns in Relationships
16:15 The Commitment Conversation
25:31 Breaking Up and Moving Forward
32:30 Post-Breakup Growth Strategies