Nina Westbrook on Cheating, Resentment & The 10-Year Test (Therapy for Athletes' Wives)

What does it take to make a relationship last? Can you love deeply without losing yourself? In this episode, therapist and wellness advocate Nina Westbrook joins me to talk about boundaries, identity, and building healthy relationships. We discuss self-worth, growth, and partnership; how motherhood reshaped her perspective; what it means to maintain independence in marriage; and why authenticity is everything. We also get into codependency, resentment, and the truth about creating happiness for yourself.

We talk about:
✨ Growing up as a perfectionist and learning to let go
✨ The challenges of being an introvert married to a very public partner
✨ Motherhood as a turning point for identity and boundaries
✨ How therapy helped her find her voice and self-trust
✨ Why you’re responsible for your own happiness; not your partner
✨ The reality of long-term relationships: growth, change, and “the work”
✨ Perspectives on cheating, forgiveness, and rebuilding trust
✨ Why codependency isn’t healthy (and what to cultivate instead)

Connect with Nina Westbrook:
📸 Instagram:   / ninawestbrook  
🎙️ Do Tell Relationship Podcast: available everywhere
🌐 Béné by Nina Website: https://benebynina.com/
📸 Béné by Nina Instagram:   / benexnina  

About Nina Westbrook:
Nina Westbrook is a licensed marriage and family therapist, entrepreneur, and founder of the wellness platform Béné. Known for her compassionate approach to relationships and mental health, she helps people navigate boundaries, authenticity, and growth while balancing life as a mom of three and partner to NBA star Russell Westbrook.

Timestamps:
00:00 Intro: Putting Yourself First
08:04 People-Pleasing & Setting Boundaries
12:50 Introvert-Extrovert Relationships
14:52 Personal Growth in Long-Term Relationships
16:09 Taking Ownership of Your Happiness
19:19 Non-Negotiables in a Relationship
22:53 Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics
26:17 Should Relationships Be 50/50?
31:31 Fixing vs Letting Go of Relationships
33:44 Cheating and Rebuilding Trust
38:21 Codependency vs. Independence
41:10 The Importance of Self-Care and Setting Expectations
43:14 Conclusion

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