15: The Attraction Problem No One Wants to Admit

Why do so many people want passion, attraction, and a soft feminine partner… without doing the work to lead, grow, or evolve?


In this episode of Unicorns Do Exist, Vanessa gets real (and a little spicy) about lazy energy in relationships—and why attraction dies when there’s no drive, no purpose, and no personal growth. We’re talking masculine and feminine energy, emotional leadership, physical vitality, and why simply having a job is not the same as being a high-value partner.


Using insights from Esther Perel and Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson, this episode breaks down what actually creates desire, polarity, and safety in modern relationships—whether you identify with masculine or feminine energy.


This is not a man-bashing episode.
 This is a wake-up call.


If you’ve ever felt turned off by lack of ambition, uninspired by emotional laziness, or frustrated trying to soften when there’s nothing to lean into—this conversation will hit home.


✨ Expect topics like:




• Masculine vs feminine energy in relationships


• Why attraction requires movement, growth, and leadership


• Emotional safety, polarity, and desire


• Why driven people don’t stay “broke” (in any sense of the word)


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How laziness kills intimacy—physically, mentally, and emotionally





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🦄 Unicorns do exist… but they don’t settle for stagnant energy.