5 Avoidant Attitudes That Prove You’re Just a Substitute,Not Their Priority | Mel Robbins Motivation

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5 Avoidant Attitudes That Prove You’re Just a Substitute,Not Their Priority | Mel Robbins Motivation

This 47-minute motivational speech, inspired by Mel Robbins Motivation, breaks down 5 avoidant attitudes that prove you’re just a substitute – not their priority.
Avoidants may say the right words…
but their patterns tell a different story:
💭 They keep you close, but never fully choose you,
📵 They disappear when you need them the most,
🧊 They give you “almost love” – just enough to keep you hooked, never enough to feel safe.

In this video, you’ll learn:
✨ 5 specific behaviors that reveal you’re not their real priority,
✨ How avoidants keep you as a backup while acting emotionally unavailable,
✨ Why your over-giving and constant understanding keep you stuck in the substitute role,
✨ How to step out of the “second choice” position and reclaim your self-respect.

This isn’t about shaming them.
It’s about finally seeing clearly, so you stop begging to be chosen
and start choosing yourself. 🌙💫

🕒 Timestamps

00:00 ⏳ Introduction – Are You a Priority or Just a Substitute?
04:15 💭 How Avoidants Think About Connection and Commitment
09:30 🚩 Attitude #1 – They Only Show Up When It Suits Them
15:05 🧊 Attitude #2 – Emotional Minimalism (Just Enough to Keep You There)
21:40 🤐 Attitude #3 – You’re Kept in the Shadows, Not in Their Real Life
28:20 🔁 Attitude #4 – Hot-and-Cold Cycles That Keep You Hooked
35:10 💔 Attitude #5 – They’re Calm About Losing You (Until You’re Actually Gone)
41:50 💪 How to Stop Being a Substitute and Demand Priority
46:00 🌅 Final Reminder – You Were Never “Too Much”; You Were Just Given Too Little

💬 Why Watch This

Because you deserve more than being someone’s backup plan or emotional placeholder. 🌙

This video will help you:
✅ Clearly identify the 5 avoidant attitudes that prove you’re not their priority,
✅ Stop romanticizing mixed signals and emotional crumbs,
✅ Understand why your empathy and effort haven’t changed their behavior,
✅ Build the courage to walk away from being “second best”,
✅ Step into relationships where you’re seen, chosen, and respected from the start.

If you’ve ever thought,

“If they cared, why do I feel like an option?”
this speech gives you the exact framework to see the truth and choose differently. 💫

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