Narcissistic Personality Disorder: කලත්‍රයා කුමන ආකාරයේ ආකෘතියක් දකිනවාද?

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Narcissism ranges from healthy self-esteem to a destructive personality disorder (NPD). While healthy narcissism supports empathy and self-worth, pathological narcissism damages relationships. This study explores what it is like to live with a narcissistic spouse, drawing from victims’ experiences.

Theoretical Background

Concept of Narcissism: Originating from Greek mythology and later Freud, narcissism refers to self-love and inflated self-perception.

Personality Disorder: NPD is marked by exaggerated self-importance, fantasies of success, entitlement, lack of empathy, exploitation of others, and envy. About 7–9% of the population show narcissistic traits, with men being more commonly affected.

Relationships: Narcissists often treat partners as objects to serve their needs rather than as equals. Their fragile self-esteem leads to aggression, lack of intimacy, and manipulative behaviors.

Research Purpose

The study aimed to describe life with a narcissistic spouse, focusing on how victims define narcissistic behavior and constructing a model of such behavior in intimate relationships.

Methodology

Approach: Qualitative content analysis.

Data: 100 online discussion threads (326 pages) from a victims’ support forum (2008–2009).

Analysis: Five categories emerged—exercise of power, maladjustment, immorality, lack of reality, and manipulation—all linked to deep self-esteem problems.

Results
1. Exercise of Power

Narcissists control partners through blame, intimidation, surveillance, verbal abuse, and physical violence. They punish disobedience and fear abandonment, often lashing out violently.

2. Maladjustment

Traits include extreme self-centeredness, mood swings, lack of empathy, hypersensitivity to criticism, and inability to form genuine intimacy.

3. Immorality

They lie, cheat, manipulate, vandalize, and exploit partners. Moral choices are guided by self-interest, not conscience.

4. Lack of Sense of Reality

Narcissists show jealousy, paranoia, and megalomania. They project their own envy and dishonesty onto others, setting unrealistic goals and exaggerating their abilities.

5. Need for Manipulation

They use double-bind communication, histrionics, and emotional control to diminish their partners. They envy partners’ authenticity and joy, often seeking to destroy it.

Discussion

NPD reflects profound dysfunction in self-esteem. Narcissists cannot admit faults or change, making relationships destructive for their spouses. While diagnostic criteria overlap with study findings, the emphasis here is on the power dynamics and lived experiences in intimate relationships.

Conclusions

Narcissists in relationships are perceived as unstable, immoral, manipulative, and controlling.

They harm partners through power struggles, lack of empathy, dishonesty, jealousy, and violence.

Spouses endure psychological, emotional, and sometimes physical abuse, leading to hindered growth and wellbeing.

Increased awareness of narcissism can support better strategies for intervention and support for victims.