If You Say Yes When You Mean No, Watch This – You're Choosing Comfortable Suffering

In this video, we explore Dostoevsky's profound insight into why comfort is your greatest enemy and how familiar suffering keeps you trapped. If you constantly say yes when you mean no, let people use you without pushback, or feel like you're betraying yourself to avoid conflict, you're not being kind — you're being a coward. Learn why Dostoevsky understood that we become comfortable with our own suffering, how people-pleasing is actually fear disguised as kindness, and why the discomfort you're avoiding is the only path to freedom. Discover why setting boundaries feels unbearable while being used feels familiar, how you've trained people to take you for granted, and why temporary discomfort of saying no is better than the permanent pain of self-betrayal. Understand Dostoevsky's lessons from Notes from Underground, Crime and Punishment, and The Brothers Karamazov about choosing uncomfortable truth over comfortable lies. This is not about being selfish — it's about reclaiming your self-respect by finally getting uncomfortable.

Timestamps :
00:01:40 – The Real Problem: Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable
00:03:40 – Dostoevsky's Insight on Familiar Suffering
00:05:40 – Examples: Sarah the User & The Job That Drains You
00:07:40 – The Paradox: We Become Attached to Our Pain
00:09:40 – Notes from Underground: Choosing the Devil You Know
00:11:40 – Fake Kindness vs Real Kindness
00:13:40 – What Happens Over Time: The Resentment Builds
00:15:40 – The Difference Between Helping and Being Used
00:17:30 – What Needs to Happen: Get Deliberately Uncomfortable
00:19:30 – Practical Steps: How to Set Boundaries
00:21:30 – The Final Truth: You Only Get One Life
00:23:15 – Final Choice

References:
Dostoevsky, Fyodor. Notes from Underground. Translated by Richard Pevear and Larissa Volokhonsky. Vintage Classics, 1993