Episode 78 – Drifts: When the Little Things Stop Being Seen (Gratitude Kills Distance)

What if the distance in your marriage isn’t coming from big blowups… but from the little things that stopped being seen?

In this episode of the Brotherhood Forged Podcast, Paul, Joey, and Caleb unpack how unnoticed daily acts and a lack of expressed gratitude slowly create emotional drift, resentment, and isolation in marriage and family.

We walk through a powerful gratitude thought experiment:

If tomorrow you only had what you thanked God for today… what would still be in your life?

From there, we dive into:
• How unspoken appreciation quietly erodes closeness in marriage
• Why familiarity and busyness condition us to overlook what our wives and families do every day
• The danger of scorekeeping (“I do more than they do”) and how it poisons connection
• How a growing relationship with Christ reshapes our wants from “me-focused” to “others-focused”
• The power of recognizing your spouse’s bids for connection and responding instead of withdrawing
• Practical ways to make gratitude a daily rhythm instead of a rare reaction

We also share:
• A gratitude journal challenge you can do for your wife (inspired by The Compound Effect)
• Simple daily and weekly habits to change the atmosphere of your home through thanksgiving
• Why 1 Thessalonians 5:18 (“give thanks in all circumstances”) is not just a nice verse—but God’s will for your life

Whether you feel distant in your marriage, stuck in isolation, or just sensing that you’ve stopped noticing the small things, this episode will challenge you to let gratitude kill the distance and rebuild connection one “thank you” at a time.

⸻

Scripture Mentioned
• 1 Thessalonians 5:18 (ESV) – “Give thanks in all circumstances…”
• The life of Job as a picture of gratitude and faith in suffering

⸻

Join the Brotherhood Forged Community

🔥 Brotherhood Forged: Built for Men Who Refuse to Stay Stuck

This isn’t just another group chat or motivational feed.

Brotherhood Forged is a coaching-driven community for men who are ready to lead with strength, faith, and integrity in their homes, bodies, mindset, and legacy.

Inside the community you’ll get:
• Weekly group coaching calls rooted in faith and personal growth
• Daily challenges to sharpen discipline and identity
• A brotherhood of men who actually show up for each other
• Workouts, accountability tools, and tactical content you can put into action
• A system to build the 2.0 version of you — with no fluff and no excuses

You don’t have to figure this out alone.
We don’t just talk about being better men.
We train for it — together.

👉 Join the community at:
https://brotherhoodforged.com (hosted on Mighty Networks)

Forge your identity.
Lead your family.
Reclaim your future.

⸻

Connect With Us
• 🌐 Website: https://brotherhoodforged.com
• 📧 Email: [email protected]

Have questions, feedback, or a topic you want us to tackle?
Email us or reach out through the community—we’d love to hear from you.

⸻

Help the Show Grow

If this episode encouraged you:
• Follow the show on Podbean
• Download the episode (it really helps!)
• Rate & review the podcast on your platform
• Share this episode with a brother who needs to hear it

Thanks for being part of the brotherhood.
Jesus loves you—and so do we.#brotherhoodforged
#ChristianMen #ChristianHusbands #ChristianMarriage #MarriageAdvice #Gratitude #GratitudeChallenge #FaithBasedPodcast #MensMinistry #BiblicalManhood #SpiritualLeadership #LeadYourFamily #Sanctification #Jesus #MarriageTips #HusbandLife #LoveLanguages #CompoundEffect #IsolationToConnection #ChristianPodcast #MensGroup #Masculinity #KingdomMen #ChristianCommunity #Thankful #FaithAndFamily #MensCoaching #Brotherhood