the cost of being the "nice girl"

You’ve been playing the “nice girl” role—softening, shrinking, and swallowing your truth so no one thinks you’re difficult. And yet… you still feel unseen, drained, and misunderstood.

In this video, I explore the hidden cost of being “the nice girl”. How people-pleasing forms as a survival strategy, why it’s so common during periods of transition, and what it actually takes to come home to your voice.

We talk about:
• Why shrinking yourself doesn’t actually keep you safe
• How conditioning disconnects you from your inner authority
• The nervous system roots of people-pleasing
• Signs you’ve handed your power away without realizing it
• Gentle ways to start reclaiming your truth (without forcing or burning bridges)

This conversation is especially supportive if you’re:
• In a season of transition or identity change
• Feeling bitter, resentful, or quietly exhausted
• Afraid of being “too much” or “difficult”
• Learning to trust your inner voice again

At the end, I’ll offer reflective prompts to help you notice where this pattern shows up in your own life.

💬 I’d love to hear your story. What part of this resonated most for you? If you feel called, please share in the comments below.
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