How to Let Go of Someone You Love (For Anxious Attachers)

Letting go of someone you love can feel like the hardest thing you’ll ever do — especially if you have anxious attachment patterns. When your nervous system equates connection with safety, walking away can feel more intolerable than staying in pain.

In this episode, I explore why letting go is so difficult, and what actually helps when love, attachment, and fear are all tangled together.

I talk about:
Why anxious attachment makes holding on feel safer than letting go
How we often confuse feelings with instructions for action
Why waiting to “feel ready” or to stop loving someone keeps us stuck
The crucial distinction between love and compatibility
Why letting go isn’t a feeling — it’s a choice you make again and again
How grief, discomfort, and longing are part of the process, not signs you’ve made a mistake

This episode is both a pep talk and a reality check — an invitation to trust yourself enough to choose what’s right for you, even when it hurts, and even when you still love them.

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