INFP Survival Mode: Why I Cut Off My Family

Hello dear soul, welcome to Lightbearer's Library 🕊️ If you are an INFP in survival mode, struggling with draining family expectations and the weight of obligation, today’s journal entry is for you.

Dealing with intense emotional overwhelm and a chaotic world, many of us intuitive introverts are forced into survival mode, making the difficult choice to temporarily isolate and establish radical boundaries to prevent a downward spiral.

Join me as I share my own experience of needing to cut off external noise, embrace self-preservation, and why understanding your personality type—including the pull of your Introverted Sensing (Si) child function towards duty— gives you the necessary permission to prioritize the basics of self-care. You don't owe anyone your energy when you are focused on finding the internal space for meaningful personal growth.

✨ The Lightbearer's Challenge ✨

Commit today to one simple act of self-preservation—like rereading a favorite comfort book or ensuring you eat well. This intentional, necessary isolation is how you strengthen your inner world and find your light again. Please share that one simple act with me, so I can cheer you on!

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XOXO,
Kate Harmony

Video Chapters
0:00 Introduction & The Struggle with Extrovert Family Expectations
1:25 The Internal Chaos: Why the World Feels Tipped Upside Down
2:40 Introversion as a Survival Mechanism & Necessary Isolation
3:30 The Weight of Obligation vs. Self-Preservation: The Si Child Function
6:10 Stopping the Downward Spiral: Avoiding Small Talk & Negativity
8:39 Why Maintaining The Basics is a "Monumental Task"
9:35 The Best INFP Self-Care: Comfort Books & Innocent Movies
10:50 You Don't Owe Anyone Your Energy: The Gift of Self-Permission

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🌿 About Me 🌿

My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries.

Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too.

I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays.

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