HOW to stop the Push and Pull in a Fearful Avoidant Relationship | HealingFa.com

Are you caught in the push and pull of your relationship, unsure how to find stability?
This is the Fearful Avoidant Push and Pull Dynamic, driven by what I call the Extremities Mechanism: a cycle where love feels irresistible yet terrifying, closeness pulls you in, and fear pushes you away.

In this video, I explain:
What the Push and Pull Dynamic really is
How the Extremities Mechanism keeps Fearful Avoidants flip flopping between closeness and distance
Practical steps to stop the cycle and build consistent connection
How partners can support an FA partner without triggering fear
What stable and secure love feels like once you have healed this dynamic

Watch this if you’ve ever asked:
“Why can’t I fully commit?”
“Why do I pull away after feeling close?”
“How can I help my partner feel safe without losing myself?”

This video is essential for both Fearful Avoidants and their partners, giving clarity, tools, and strategies to break the cycle for good.
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Video Title: HOW to stop the Push and Pull in a Fearful Avoidant Relationship

00:00 Extremities Mechanisms
04:20 Why you Push & Pull
07:27 The Key to Stop the Push & Pull
12:01 What to Do as a Partner
15:47 What it Feels Like to Heal This

This video is about HOW to stop the Push and Pull in a Fearful Avoidant Relationship. But It also covers the following topics:

Fear of Connection
Connection Control
The Fearful Avoidant Shame Dive

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✅ About Paulien Timmer - Healing the fearful-avoidant.

The way you feel right now is not the way you are. If you want more freedom, calm, love, and peace in your head, body, and life, it is possible. You are not too broken.
‌After spending 14 years healing the fearful avoidant attachment style, I am beyond passionate and dedicated to getting you to where I am now: living a life true to myself, waking up feeling rested and peaceful. Deeply in love with my husband and looking forward to the future. This is what life is supposed to be like, and it is my honor to help you get there.
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In the past 7 years, I have guided over 2000 people through my Dutch programs (I am from the Netherlands), to a secure attachment and happy relationship. Over the past year and a half, another 260 beautiful people have been through the English program Healed&Happy. I love seeing how lives can change within three months, and how NORMAL it can feel to have a secure attachment. I wish you so much joy, pleasure, and love.

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