Getting Over Our Fear of Abandonment and Needing to be CHOSEN

When we stop chasing likability, and needing to be chosen....things begin to change. ❤️

EP #21 - This is Caroline's selection as one of her favorites from the Not For Everyone archives. This episode originally aired on April 27, 2023 as episode TWENTY ONE!! Way back in the early days of NFE.

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Jess and Caroline come in hot with very different starting points and somehow end up in the exact same emotional place. What begins as a conversation about dads and jokes spirals into a raw, teary unpacking of people pleasing, fear of abandonment, and the exhausting belief that your worth is tied to how well you perform socially. Caroline opens up about a messy post-podcast breakup, taking a break from dating, and nervously heading into her first date with Justin that night. Jess meets her there with her own reckoning around feeling lovable without being likable. Along the way: therapists asking the rudest question imaginable (“what if you didn’t have to do anything?”), petty beef with cultured food trends, a question for Bugs Bunny, and a reality-TV podcast gripe. Equal parts vulnerable, unhinged, and experimental—this one has the full spectrum.
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Contents of this Video
00:00 - Intro

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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA

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