Top 5 questions I get asked about my brother's addiction & recovery (and what I wish I was asked)

If you’ve ever felt like people are quick to ask about the loved one struggling with addiction—but rarely ask how you’re doing—you’re not alone.
In this episode, I’m opening up about the questions I get asked most about my brother’s addiction—and the ones I wish people asked instead. Because it’s not about blame. It’s about being seen.

People often ask:
“Do you think he’s ready for treatment this time?”
“What caused him to use?”
“Is your family doing better now?”

But what I wish they’d ask sounds more like:
“How has this changed you?”
“What’s been hardest to carry?”
“What kind of support actually helps?”

This conversation is for every sibling who’s tired of being the messenger, the fixer, or the spokesperson—and ready to be seen as themselves again.

💬 If you’ve ever loved someone struggling with addiction and lost sight of your own story in the process, this one’s for you.

0:00 Intro
2:07 How’s Your Brother? How Are Your Parents?
3:55 Do You Think He’s Ready For Rehab This Time?”
6:34 Have You Tried Everything to Help Him?
9:43 What Made Him Start Using?
13:00 Does Drug Court Mean He Must Stay in Treatment?
14:29 What Do I Love Most About My Brother?
15:55 How Has His Addiction Changed Our Relationship?
17:24 Being a “Second Mom” to My Brother
20:36 A Message to Siblings

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