Parenting the Overlooked Years: Why Ages 9–12 Matter More Than You Think

Parenting the Overlooked Years: Why Ages 9–12 Matter More Than You Think

How do we work with kids at the ages 9-12 who often don't open up as much as we would like them to?

Parenting the tween years (ages 9–12) is one of the most overlooked yet crucial seasons in raising kids. While everyone focuses on the teen years, what happens before sets the stage for everything that follows. In this video, B.J. Meurer unpacks why ages 9–12 matter so much, how to deepen your relationship with your son or daughter, and how to help them navigate emotions, faith, and identity as they prepare for the teenage years.

This video is from Raw Parenting Unfiltered, our weekly livestream q and a session, where B.J. was asked about a 12 year old son.

In this video you’ll discover:
✅ Why relationship—not just rules—builds influence for the teenage years
✅ How dads and moms each play unique roles in guiding boys into manhood and girls into womanhood
✅ Practical ways to connect: getting into your child’s world and inviting them into yours
✅ How to normalize emotions and give your kids the language they need
✅ The importance of prayer in guarding your kids against isolation and spiritual attack

Parenting isn’t just about surviving the teenage years—it’s about discipling your child through every stage. Ages 9–12 are where the foundation for healthy relationships, spiritual growth, and emotional maturity is laid. Don’t overlook this powerful season.

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