Episode 93: Episode 93: My "Hissy Fit" (a surprising path to freedom)

Ever had a full-on hissy fit—the kind that mindset culture tends to avoid?

Well… mine turned into a big breakthrough.

In this week’s vlog, I talk about a moment that others might call “resistance,” “sabotage,” or “plain old drama.” But instead of fixing my thoughts and feelings, I gave them voice and allowed them presence. What unfolded surprised even me.

Here’s the setup: I signed up for a retreat with a beloved mentor. As the time came closer, I seriously regretted my commitment. I wanted out. I told two besties what was happening—not for advice, but to avoid shame or trying to fix the feelings.

“I don’t want to go.”
“I don’t want to know these people.”
“I’ll feel trapped.”
“Maybe I can still cancel.”

The feelings were loud, but I didn’t make them the enemy. I didn’t agree with them either. I just let them breathe.

And then something shifted.

I showed up. I connected. I laughed. I flowed. I joined the cliques. I asked to take photos with people. I even stayed for dinner after a long day—which I never do.

What changed?

Maybe it wasn’t a fluke. Maybe something powerful happens when we let the so-called “negative” feelings out of the cage—and stop calling them the truth.

Would you be willing to name what you feel—even if you don’t like it—if it meant the difference between staying stuck and feeling free?

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Rosalyn Rourke is a psychotherapist, best-selling author, and Master Enneagram Teacher with over 30 years of experience helping individuals navigate grief, trauma, and personal transformation. Her work blends deep professional insight with personal experience, particularly following the sudden loss of her daughter. She is the author of When Wisdom Arrives: From Imagined Unworthiness to Freedom and regularly speaks on topics like mortality, resilience, and emotional healing.

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