Can You Really Change How You Show Up in Relationships?

Is self-help healing really helping? Many stay anxious and stuck in avoidant patterns despite affirmations and inner work. This episode reveals what truly fixes attachment and relationships.

Topics Covered:
👉 Why the idea that you’re “broken” and need healing creates shame and keeps you stuck
👉 The damage caused by trying to fix relational problems in isolation
👉 Why “heal yourself before relationships” delays real attachment repair
👉 How cutting off “negative people” reinforces avoidance instead of growth
👉 Why feelings are data—not truth—and how emotional flooding distorts reality
👉 Why affirmations and manifestation don’t rewire attachment patterns
👉 How attachment issues live in the nervous system, not positive thinking
👉 What real attachment repair looks like in practice
👉 The role of co-regulation, conflict repair, boundaries, and communication
👉 Why repeated relational experiences—not insight—create secure attachment

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If you’ve struggled in dating or marriage and worry you’re not good enough, worry no more. The Attachment Specialist Adam Lane Smith wrote this guide to show you how to stop fearing abandonment and start building healthy relationships. Through his proven step-by-step method for repairing attachment, Adam will teach you what people really want from you, how to give and receive love without fear, what red flags to avoid, and how you can build a lifetime love with a partner you trust.

Slaying Your Fear - A Book For People Who Grapple With Insecurity
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Slaying Your Fear - A Book For People Who Grapple With Insecurity
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07S33YGJZ

Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform:

Instagram:   / attachmentadam  
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