Fear is Sacred: dancing with who you are *becoming*

In this episode of becoming: the podcast, Amanda and Emilia turn toward one of the most misunderstood forces in personal growth: fear.

Rather than treating fear as something to overcome, bypass, or “get rid of,” they explore why fear is often sacred — a signal of care, integrity, and deep alignment with what actually matters.

Drawing from lived experience, coaching hundreds of leaders, and years of somatic and spiritual work, Amanda shares how fear shaped much of her early life — and how learning to work with fear, rather than around it, changed everything.

Together, Amanda and Emilia unpack the nuanced difference between fear and intuition, why playing it safe doesn’t actually reduce suffering, and how fear often appears precisely when we’re standing at the edge of becoming who we truly are.

Inside the episode, we explore:

Why fear isn’t a sign that something is wrong — but often a sign that something meaningful is at stake

How to distinguish fear from intuition (and why they feel so different in the body)

The way fear shows up as a wall, while intuition tends to feel invitational

Why dissociation, “good enough” choices, and staying busy are common ways we avoid fear

How somatic tools help regulate the nervous system when fear is loud

The role of fight, flight, freeze, and fawn in fear responses

Why fear doesn’t disappear with success, confidence, or experience — and why that’s okay

How titration (small, intentional steps) allows us to move through fear without overwhelming the system

Why some of the most fearful people are also the most ethical, caring, and conscientious

The spiritual practice of “leaving fear on the altar” and remembering what’s bigger than you

Why fearlessness isn’t always virtuous — and how entitlement can be its shadow

How to walk toward your life one inch at a time, without letting fear make the decisions

This episode is an invitation to stop pathologizing your fear — and instead, listen to what it’s protecting, what it’s pointing toward, and what it might be asking of you.

If you’ve ever thought, “If I weren’t so afraid, I’d finally live my life,” this conversation is for you.

Because fear isn’t the thing keeping you from your purpose — avoiding it might be.