Why You Think It Was Your Fault (Even When It Wasn’t)

If you walked away from a breakup carrying the blame...
If you’ve found yourself saying, “Maybe I was the problem”…
Even when underneath you know you did your best—

This video is for you.

Timestamps
01:00 – Why You Blame Yourself After a Breakup
01:49 – What Self-Blame Really Hides
03:46 – Magical Thinking as a Child
05:00 – Magical Thinking in Your Adult Life
05:45 – What Self-Awareness is Not
07:39 – 5 Things You Do When You’re Blaming Yourself
11:14 – Blaming Loops
12:05 – The Cost of Carrying the Blame
16:16 – 5 Things That Will Actually Help You Heal
19:51 – Letting Go of What Was Never Yours

When you grow up in emotionally unstable or neglectful environments, your nervous system learns to take responsibility for keeping the peace. Even when it wasn’t your job.

In this video, I’ll show you:
🔹 Why self-blame feels like safety after a breakup
🔹 How early emotional neglect creates this pattern
🔹 What’s really going on when you feel like the bad one
🔹 And how to begin letting go of blame so you can reclaim your voice and your worth

This isn’t about blaming yourself. It’s about finally seeing yourself clearly.
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Disclaimer: I’m not a therapist or medical professional. The information shared on this channel is for educational purposes only and is based on personal experience and research. It’s not a substitute for therapy, medical advice, or professional treatment. If you’re in crisis or need immediate support, please contact a licensed mental health provider or emergency services in your area.
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