Evolutionary Psychologist: This is Why We Aren't Happy | Dr. Bill von Hippel, Being Well

Life today is (on average) safer and more comfortable than ever before, so why do so many people feel unhappy, lonely, and anxious? I talk with evolutionary psychologist Dr. William von Hippel about this paradox in light of our two core needs: autonomy and connection. He argues that modern life has pushed us too far in the direction of autonomy, and that we need to reclaim connection in order to find happiness. 

We discuss how our evolutionary past shaped our needs for autonomy and connection, the tension between them, and why social connection matters so much for our well-being. We also touch on gender and cultural differences, common misunderstandings about evolutionary psychology, and what people can do to create more balanced and connected lives today.

Key Topics:
0:00 Why hasn’t modern life made us happier?
3:20 The evolution of autonomy and connection
10:15 How modern life favors autonomy over connection
18:10 “Sad success stories,” and the cost of competence
20:00 Competence vs warmth
26:00 Evolutionary mismatch, and its impact on well-being
29:00 How to understand evolutionary psychology
34:00 Evolved gender differences in autonomy and connection
42:00 Balancing sociocultural and evolutionary differences
49:00 What do those gender differences look like in practice?
55:50 Finding a healthy balance between autonomy and connection
1:08:55 Recap

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