Why Intimacy Feels Overwhelming in Relationships

Ever feel like you’re emotionally open… but your partner feels shut down?

In this video, Jem & Daz have an honest, unscripted conversation about intimacy, emotional availability, and why one partner can feel like a brick wall, even when love is present.

Through real dialogue and lived experience, Jem and Daz unpack why Daz felt emotionally closed off early in their relationship, how Jem responded to that, and the surprising truth they discovered underneath the frustration: fear, protection, and unmet expectations, on both sides.

This isn’t theory. It’s a real relationship conversation, in real time, exploring:
Why emotional openness doesn’t happen on demand
How expectations formed during dating can quietly sabotage intimacy
Why criticism and pulling away actually block the closeness we crave
And how tenderness begins when blame ends

If you’ve ever thought “I want intimacy, but my partner just won’t open up” — this conversation may change how you see your relationship.

TIMESTAMPS
0:00 – The “Brick Wall” Question
Have you ever dated someone who feels terrified of intimacy?
0:36 – Vulnerability & Attraction
Why emotional openness in men is actually deeply attractive
1:10 – Dating vs Reality
Do people really change once the relationship starts?
1:40 – Expectation vs Reality
Why expecting sudden emotional openness sets relationships up to fail
2:10 – Daz Reflects on Emotional Shutdown
How emotional protection developed — and why it wasn’t intentional
2:45 – The Push–Pull Dynamic
How criticism and withdrawal quietly erode connection
3:45 – Reframe: What If Both People Are Afraid?
Fear ≠ lack of love
4:25 – Where Tenderness Actually Begins
“I’m scared too — and I can meet you there.”
4:55 – Redefining Intimacy
Why intimacy isn’t the absence of fear, but staying present through it
5:15 – Who We Are & What We Do
Meet Jem & Daz — intimacy & relationship coaches

JOIN THE CONVERSATION
Have you ever been told you’re “too emotional”… or felt like your partner was emotionally unavailable?

Tell us what resonated in the comments, we read every one.

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