How To Be More Assertive | 3 Tips For Men!

You're probably thinking, "How can I be more assertive? I am coming off as either a nice guy or a shy guy or I'm always in the friend zone and I'm not getting clear on getting my point across". Assertive does not mean that you have to be disrespectful, it does not mean that you have to be bossy, but it does mean that you have to stand your ground for who you are and have your own opinion. A lot of us deal with this question of what is assertiveness, especially when it comes to relationships, and we frown upon assertiveness as being bossy, telling women what to do or saying get out of my life and I'm the ruler of my life and having this macho, egotistical balance of a relationship when ultimately you're just going to continue to date women and they're not going to want anything to do with you and you're just going to be stuck in this what am I doing, this macho mentality of what am I doing wrong. Or the other macho mentality is pointing fingers at everybody else.

Let's be honest, like I say in a lot of my videos. Whatever you believe, you will attract and it's all about energy. In order to be the assertive man and how to be more assertive does not mean that you have to come off disrespectful, shame other men, shame women or separate and judge. There's too much of that going on in life right now. There are so many separations with all these different movements and as you know, that you've seen if you follow me on Instagram I talk a lot about this, and I talk about why I'm in this field with men because I feel that men need to be heard more than ever these days. I don't do any of these movements. Assertiveness in relationships, assertive skills, confidence, and assertiveness id so important when you want to know how to become more assertive and how to stand up for yourself.

Number one, this is the most important and it is aligned with what I was talking about in the beginning of this video, is you have positive confrontations. When something doesn't go right or something doesn't go to the liking of your values, your boundaries, your beliefs when it comes to love, relationships, or friendships, doesn't matter, you speak your opinion but you speak it in a respectful manner, meaning you're not judging anybody else, but you're coming across forceful, opinionated, and holding your own and telling the reasons of why because of your own values. You're not pointing fingers at anybody and shining a light in order for you to be this godly presence because you're wrong and I'm right. No, you're just standing firm and you're having positive interactions, positive conversations, but also know how to confront these things in a positive demeanor. This is a powerful assertive man. When you can get this one thing across to a woman or to other males, this is life-changing and you're looked at in a completely different lens and you have a lot more value to you as a person and as a human.

Number two, it's kind of similar to number one but you say no. You don't always say yes to everything just to fit in or just to get along with other people or just not to have confrontation. Saying no is vital to your energy and to who you are as a person, because of the fact that you won't devalue yourself or submit yourself to doing something else that another person wants you to do but you don't feel like it's right. Because let's be honest, most of the time when we do something that we don't want to do and we don't feel that it's right and is aligned with us, we're miserable in the process, so why even do that because it's just gonna bring you down overall.

Lastly, the next tip is confidence in knowing who you are, meaning confidence doesn't mean that I'm the hottest guy in here and I'm walking up with my chin up, my shoulders back in the nicest outfit. No, confidence means that you hold yourself to a certain standard and a certain respect. You put your passions, you put your goals first in order to know exactly what it is that you want out of life and you want in life, and you have a clear conscious decision and goals of what that looks like and you are determined to work towards that every single day.

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