What Disorganized Attachment Really Feels Like

What does it really feel like to live with disorganized attachment? In this episode, Adam welcomes Amy Moore, who shares her story of navigating survival mode, struggling with both avoidance and anxiety, and learning how to begin her healing journey.

Topics Covered:
👉 Amy’s experience with disorganized attachment and “survival mode”
👉 How attachment styles shift between avoidance (single) and anxiety (in relationships)
👉 The role of parenting and how her daughter perceives her healing journey
👉 Why emotional safety and oxytocin bonding are critical in relationships
👉 How trauma from infancy and childhood affects adult attachment patterns
👉 The freeze response and how it’s often misinterpreted as indifference
👉 Practical steps for repair: asking questions, sharing context, and creating safe communication
👉 The importance of forgiveness, self-awareness, and building trust with 2–3 close connections

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Chapters:
00:00 Intro & Amy’s Background
00:45 Discovering Attachment Styles
04:01 Avoidant vs Anxious Tendencies
06:26 Relationship Struggles and Misunderstandings
13:43 Opening Up with Your Kids
22:39 Healing, Boundaries & Generational Trauma
27:01 Why Changing Beliefs Alone Doesn’t Work
33:13 The Power of Asking Questions
40:42 Social Anxiety, Shutdowns & Misinterpretation
46:01 Breaking the Cycle with Conversations
53:13 Building Emotional Safety & Trust
01:04:00 Final Advice & Closing Thoughts

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