Breaking Free from Sexual Baggage: Your Journey Starts Now

This episode discusses the importance of discussing sexual history before marriage and how to handle accepting a spouse's sexual history. It explores the different aspects of sexual history, including past relationships, mindsets, and experiences with pornography and masturbation. The conversation also delves into the impact of childhood trauma on sexual history and the need for support and understanding in dealing with trauma. It emphasizes the importance of full disclosure, compassion, and reassurance in building trust and creating a safe space for sharing and healing. The episode concludes by encouraging listeners to seek professional help for trauma and to continue working towards healing and a thriving sex life.

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Takeaways
There are various types of birth control available, including hormonal and non-hormonal options.
Birth control can have side effects and risks, and it's important to be aware of them.
Alternative methods of birth control, such as the rhythm method and the pull-out method, exist but may have higher failure rates.
When considering birth control, it's important to have open and honest communication with your spouse and listen to your body.
Family planning should involve prayer and discussion about God's will for your family.

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0:00 Introduction
00:46 Importance of discussing sexual history before marriage
01:42 The different aspects of sexual history
02:10 Uncovering hidden aspects of sexual history
03:08 The impact of pornography and masturbation on sexual history
04:02 Compromises and justifications in sexual relationships
04:56 Embarrassment and regret in sharing sexual history
05:26 The importance of full disclosure in sexual history
06:23 Childhood sexual experiences and trauma
07:48 Processing childhood trauma and its impact on sexual history
08:49 The long-term effects of childhood trauma
09:11 The role of counseling in processing trauma
10:09 Triggering trauma and the non-linear processing of the brain
11:07 The association of trauma with certain triggers
12:36 The importance of support and understanding in dealing with trauma
13:59 The ongoing impact of trauma on sexual relationships
15:23 The need for compassion and reassurance in dealing with trauma
16:45 Confessing past actions and the impact on trust
18:12 Understanding the reasons for withholding information
19:11 The importance of sharing sexual history in building trust
20:09 Teaching children about boundaries and consent
21:08 Moving forward and seeking healing
22:06 Creating a safe space for sharing and healing
23:02 Seeking professional help for trauma
23:33 Conclusion

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Dave and Ashley Willis spent thirteen years in full-time church ministry before devoting their work entirely toward the global mission of building stronger, Christ-centered marriages. Their marriage-related books, blogs, podcast, speaking events and media resources have reached millions of couples around the world making Dave and Ashley one of the most recognized and trusted couples in marriage ministry.
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Dave and Ashley partnered with XO Marriage in 2018. XO Marriage is the nation's largest marriage-focused ministry. As part of the XO Team, Dave and Ashley speak at all XO events, host The Naked Marriage Podcast, and create new resources to help you thrive in your marriage.
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The Willis family includes four sons and a rescue dog named "Chi Chi." When Dave and Ashley aren't writing and speaking, they love hanging out with their family, watching movies and going on long walks which is also where they develop many of their marriage ministry content ideas.